How To Sabotage Your Marriage: Prioritize The Wrong People
Marriage is filled with obvious rights and wrongs. Hit your spouse? Wrong. Contribute to the household chores and maintenance? Right. Date other people? Umm, wrong. Date each other? Right. Yeah, you get that. Unfortunately, marriage has a lot of potential…
Mother’s Day When You Have A Bad Mom
Mother’s Day is upon us once again. For many, maybe most, people it seems like a day to lavish mothers with flowers, candy, scented candles, obligatory church attendance, and well-meaning attempts at breakfast in bed. At church we give testimonies…
How To Sabotage Your Marriage: Unrealistic Expectations
Is it just me or are the expectations around marriage absolutely unrealistic? I suppose we can blame movies, music, and romance novels. Though, something tells me that it is likely a little more complicated than that. Isn’t everything? No matter…
How to Sabotage Your Marriage: Money
Our Money Approach Chris and I hadn’t been married long before he told me that he wanted a separate bank account for his “fun” money. He explained that he did not want to have to clear purchases by me, and…
A Birthday Letter To My Mom: After She’s Gone
*I wrote this letter two years ago to share on my personal Facebook page. My posts often go unnoticed, but this one seemed to resonate with a lot of people. Especially women. As I write this, it’s Christmas Eve, the…
Being a Pastor’s Wife Is Not My Job
My husband just wouldn’t drop the idea of being a pastor. I didn’t really want him to give up on it because I believed it was a call in his life to preach and lead a church. On the other…
How to Sabotage Your Marriage: Comparison
Everyone knows you aren’t supposed to compare your life, your loved ones, or yourself to others. Every blogger/vlogger on Earth has content discussing the dangers of comparison in a world saturated in social media. This is a no-brainer. So, what…
We Took Our Kids On Our Anniversary Trip…And It Was Great!
My husband and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary last year. I saw it as a milestone, though, it seems a little silly to me to look at 10 years in a marriage as remarkable. But, alas, the culture certainly…
How to Sabotage Your Marriage: Screen Time
I’ve got a confession. I’m not always faithful to my husband. My time and attention sometimes get poured into another. I’ll walk away, but inevitably I will end up “needing” to go back. You got it… I’m talking about my…
How to Sabotage Your Marriage: Assume the Worst
I was not prepared to get married. I loved Chris, but I hadn’t done any of the groundwork up to that point to nurture a successful marriage. My mom did all my laundry until I moved out of her house.…